Anyway, we serve our partner's body and energy flow rather than own them or control them. Similarly, we must tend a good
campfire. Only then will we reap its rewards and not have it either
extinguish itself or burn the tent down. (When camping, high flames are for amateurs. The real pros cook with the minimal amount of flame and heat necessary.)

What's our ace in the hole if we're not going to use brute force? Intense preparation. From
Emotional Intelligence: Studies of Olympic athletes, world-class musicians and chess grandmasters find their unifying trait is the ability to motivate themselves to
pursue relentless training routines.

These flames may be a tad high

Rhythm
Only when the ego is in check can we conjure up the disciplined patience to find the "sweet spot" of a consistent rhythm. Applied with concentration, this is the sine qua non (without-which-not) for delivering the potentials that massage promises.

From now on, we'll bear in mind that the speed of our movements means less than does constancy and rhythm.

Said professor Underhill in her groundbreaking study of religious mysticism: "The close connection between rhythm and heightened states of consciousness is as yet little understood." A first-rate scholar, she would not have mentioned this point if it didn't hold enormous potential.

She continues that self-expression (related to the free flow of ki), once it is divorced from the critical action of the
surface intelligence (or in other words, once it enters a non-judgmental environment), always tends to assume a dithyrambic (fired with intense feeling) form. It eludes
language yet can be communicated by rhythm. (I love when people get animated and move their arms when speaking. To me it means they trust you, and the actual words they say are secondary.)

Rhythm itself is a form of communication

"Repetition is the only form of permanence that nature can achieve."
- George Santayana, Spanish philosopher


Also, it's been said that music comes closer to expressing the truth than do words, and music communicates by
rhythm.

Enjoy the Silence
In addition to rhythm, we will cultivate the practice of stillness.

Says the pop philosopher Osho, "Language lags behind the truth, so drop your
primary emphasis on words. Only silence can keep pace with the truth, because
silence has no weight to carry."

Said the master painter Raphael, speaking to Leonardo da Vinci, "I have noticed that when one paints one should think of nothing. Everything then comes better."

The practice of quietness is an important ritual in Japan. It is sometimes called
ryomi. In English the word can be translated as "the taste of coolness" or "a refreshing."

According to the Tao Te Ching, it is stillness that reveals the secrets of eternity. Said the French mathematician Blaise Pascal (1623-1662): "All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone."

A silence so loud you can feel it

Says popular religious writer Matthew Kelly, "Take a few moments each day to step into the 'classroom' of silence." Silence itself has something to teach us. (I do appreciate the framing of silence in this context.)

It's also been suggested in the popular literature that silence itself can help guide our minds and our souls. According to David Schwartz, author of
The Magic of Thinking Big (1959): Decisions arrived at in managed solitude have a habit of being correct.

In The Journey of Souls (1994), Michael Newton notes that the strength of human
emotion (inner noise) can easily overwhelm the quiet urgings of the soul, not to
mention what the soul wants to teach us.

Listening
In an atmosphere of silence, we can begin to actively listen. After reducing their
defensive rigidity, individuals begin to
hear one another; communication takes place.

Says Osho once more: When you start thinking, listening stops. (In martial arts, when the loser starts to think, the winner moves in for the kill.)

As an aside, if we want to be listened to, let's take some advice from Tolstoy: "For a truth to be heard, it must be spoken with kindness."

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